Practice not Perfect

Practice not Perfect

Fuck perfect!

As a recovering perfectionist...

Perfection created constraints that bound me to my failures so tightly I could no longer move.

My primordial brain crushed under the weight of perfection. Fearing failure. Any move unleashed anxiety and depression that wrecked me.

Perfectionism tightening inward and inward and inward, tighter and tighter into a ball of fire in me. 

Finally bursting from what I feared most until it was what I most desired: I no longer cared. The numbness and apathy broke apart my inhibitions under the pressure of perfection.

 What other people think of me - especially the ones I love - love unconditionally - PRACTICE.

 What I think of myself - love unconditionally- PRACTICE.

 What I create - let it flow - PRACTICE.

 What I express - radical freedom - PRACTICE.

️ What I experience internally reflects externally - I do not hide, I shine - PRACTICE.

 What I am passionate about, I am present in and with - PRACTICE.

Trying new things and failing miserably with a smile on my face.

Getting back up and trying again.

There is a pose in yoga - bakasana: crow pose - that I love and hate because I keep trying it, only to briefly touch on getting it perfect and it’s now OK. I continue to practice this pose, feeling my strength build, sometimes falling over and down to the floor. Where once upon a time I would quit, now I laugh with the fun and joy of practice.

Laughter reminds me I am still breathing and I can keep practicing.

Practice your passion.

Perfection can fuck off.


The Résumé Up-level You’ve Been Looking For

Does anybody else have those times when your greatness is called to task?

This just happened to me and I wanted to share because it wasn’t but a few hours after the first inquiry for my expertise, that I got a 2nd, then a 3rd. Inspiring me to share this résumé with the world.

The greatness part seems dubious but in a life that is part expertise and part joyful fun and play, sometimes the expertise takes precedent and the fun comes along for the ride. Still fun mind you. I am taking the lifetime fun challenge. I just made that up.

I won’t keep you in suspense any longer: This is the art of up-leveling. Mainly through wanting to work with great people and sometimes wanting to find great new people to work with. Surround yourself with people you think are amazing. It’s so contagious and can all be launched (for the time being) with a great résumé.

The art of up-leveling - I love that writing up-leveling tickles at one of my career secrets - this is all but a game. Tickled as well by recently hearing a successful business leader yell that life is supposed to be fun! Fun! I’ve slipped into this idea of putting on fun like a fine business suit and experiencing my life according to embracing the fun. It’s such an easy gauge; is this fun? Yes. Keep doing it. Not fun? Make it fun! Either that or get it over with fast, make a plan to make life more fun, and get back to the fun.

Is this really an article about writing a résumé?

Yes! It is!

With this résumé it is so much more because the person that asked me for résumé assistance is my mom. The retired doctor of plant pathology. I’m not going to share her age. She’s 75. That’s a lie. She’s older but I promised not to tell. It’s in the ballpark though. She loved her career until she didn't. She stayed to maximize her retirement and then when she hit the magic number she left. I'm caught in-between shocked that she stayed in one job that long and shocked that she actually retired!

Her asking this simple question only raised all kinds of stuff that raced through my brain because I am in the process of building a new business and she is helping me financially do that so if she thinks she needs a job, I might need to rethink this whole Creativity Unleashed with Radical Freedom Empire! Instead, I used every moment of my training to get out of my own head and be present with her in order to best help her. Whew! Close one! We’ve come a long way, baby! Coaching is the shit! Get a coach. Get a mentor. Find people that are making the most of their time in alignment with what they most want to do and make a b-line to them. The résumé is (for the time being still) a must in making some of these connections.

Recently, a good friend decided to change careers and go back to school at 52 so it shouldn’t have surprised me that my mom, a dedicated scientist that loved what she did wants to up-level her retired experience while at the same time being somewhat confused by the reality. Admittedly, she's been looking a bit bored the past few weeks, the thrill of chilling is wearing off.

She’s taken some quality time for herself after retiring from a career that spanned 40 years total and is in a serious transition that she is definitely not alone in. She retired, sold her house, traveled the country, found a new place to live, and moved far away from where she was. What she’s suffering from I’m going to diagnose as: retirement is stupid. What the hell am I supposed to do with myself now?

Which is irony at its finest because I’ve been touting for years that there is no such thing as retirement anymore. I think I came to this conclusion in response to one of my Dad’s dad jokes, “get back to work Sam, you’ve got to pay for my social security before it runs out.” Thanks Dad. If I never retire, I don’t have to worry about it.

As an artist, entrepreneur, and coach, I don’t ever want to retire because I want to do what I love doing until I’m done on this earth. Besides that, I’ve already retired from more careers then I can count along the way. Another expertise just now dawning on me! To the extent it took me a bit to meet my mom where she is in her experience outside the 9-5. I'm so glad she asked me for guidance because I had the perfect résumé lying in wait.

The exercise this resume brings to the experience of keying into what you love to do, what you want to do, and what you are good at is priceless.

“You want a résumé mom! I’ve got you! This is going to be fun!”

The cool thing about my mom asking for my help in this is; I am a résumé expert. I started building my résumé when I was still living with her. I’m living with her now but we took a long hiatus along the way. I’ve been perfecting my résumé, tweaking, and rebuilding it as trends change, my skills change, and my jobs change.

In my illustrious career as a manager, I collected the best and the worst. I will never forget the pizza artist from Dominos and ice cream artist from Marble Slab Creamery. Still making me laugh with a little snort! You will notice I do not add "people artist" to my résumé - even though most of my jobs moved into management and I love to quote Gary Hamel from the book What Matters Now, “management is the technology of human accomplishment.” Never did a statement make me feel so good about a job that gets so much flack.  

After a layoff, retiring, or even getting sick of the current job because you’ve taken my advice on adding more fun, and where you find yourself now feels like it’s sucking your soul away. Writing a new résumé can help not only get a new job but this one in particular seems to open up the exploration of both what you want to do and what you are really good at.

I love things that cut to the chase, except this story, it’s taking forever to get to the goods but the journey is the fun! Stick with me.

In perfect conjunction with the times my mom doesn’t want to retire either. She’s bored. She wants to meet new people. She wants to do more with her time. She wants to continue to build on her experience. She’s also running out of science fiction to read. "Is that George R.R. Martin ever gonna finish Game of Thrones?" 

When I told a couple friends that I was going to help my mom with her résumé, they also had been thinking about up-leveling their résumés which is what led me to sharing this with everybody that might be interested. It shouldn’t be a secret. There are now people that have the career of writing résumés so you can go directly to an expert for help which is fantastic. This service was not around when I began creating my résumé, I’m guessing I went to the library for examples, or the tables were turned and I asked my mom for help. 

To my mom and everyone that will listen, the world has changed and it is fun to change with it.

Let’s get started with two important things you’re going to want to keep handy and updated.

  1.  Get your LinkedIn on. 

    1. Sign-up

    2. Build your profile - look for people that have pages in your job scope for inspiration and networking.

    3. Interact by commenting on other posts and responding to them.

    4. Do have a picture that expresses you in your desired job. Take that picture, even if it’s a selfie, or your mom takes it, or your daughter, which will be the case on my mom's page.

    5. Check back regularly. LinkedIn has made this more appealing over the years to encourage you to do so. Take them up on it.

  2. Always keep a ONE PAGE résumé at the ready.

    1. I don’t mean a paper résumé because I got rid of my printer years ago to save the planet! I think the last time I printed résumé’s, it was for prospective employee interviews.

    2. Saved, easy to find, and ready to send. More on that in a few paragraphs.

A subcategory of always keeping a ONE PAGE résumé are 2 additional documents to have in association with the résumé.

  1. A few references, testimonials, and/or letters of recommendation on hand.

  2. Addresses and contact information from previous employers.

What I love about LinkedIn, other than the blatant hyperbole of the statement, is that it is a great long form résumé. Both my mom and I started our LinkedIn pages at the request of our previous employers. How great is that! It is the place I now house my career history and connect with others,  as a networking platform, in my new business. For instance, I will be sharing this article there. I’ve decided to make it a fun place to visit and connect with others in my industry, as well as, leaders that inspire me to up-level my own game.

Now the ONE PAGE résumé. When I found this résumé, I was honestly blown away by it’s genius. Of course Business Insider would oblige. They are insiders after all. (Links to both Business Insiders Article and my résumé example are at the end of the article.)

Having sifted through piles of résumés as a manager and applied for countless jobs through either company job sites that can be frustrating because the system is set-up to weed out prospects instead of funneling them effectively into the perfect job. Such is life in this technological age.

This is important: KEYWORDS. It is about getting crystal clear on accurate descriptions of what you do as it reflects in the job posting. This is why creating a base résumé that is most true to you is important. You can put it up against your idea of the perfect job or the job staring you in the face in the interim and see how it matches up. From here you can either use it to apply for this perfect matching job - cheers! - or what’s the best next step in the direction of your perfect job.

When I first started working in restaurants I wanted to be the owner and eventually I was, but first I took the dishwashing job and worked my way up from there.

Mom wanted help and I started by pulling up my most recent résumé and once again discovered the collection I’d amassed over the years. For my convenience, I’ve transitioned to Google docs where I house a current base résumé with a folder of all the various forms it’s taken.

Setting up the perfect system to conveniently(as conveniently as possible) create and keep track of your résumé(s):

  1. Create a base résumé and name the document: your name - job you want - date. Example: Sam Shearer_Creativity Unleashed & Radical Freedom Coach_2018

  2. Copy it to personalize it toward the job you want to apply for with your name 1st, the job and company applying to, and the date sent out: Sam Shearer_Corporate Wellness Coach_Tao of Transformation_932018.

  3. Read the instructions carefully on a job post and send in format requested. Commonly in PDF format so I save a copy of my resume as a PDF to attach via the application site.

I’m not super organized but having survived a brief stint receiving unemployment benefits, I learned the importance of keeping a running tally of job application details. Now I have a library of them that helped tell me I’m pretty good at this and I can say with confidence my many résumés helped get me where I am today. 

I really appreciate the genius of this résumé building article from Business Insider(again, not a sponsor!):

I used it to build my latest résumé:


I feel the fun of greatness in the making! If this encourages you and helps you to create a résumé that gets you working in the industry you want with the people you want to be working with, I want to hear from you.

If you find yourself stuck in your next step, I'd love to hear from you because if I can help and I don't offer, I'm not really helping. Please reach out and let me know. 



Hamel, Gary. What Matters Now. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2012. Print. pp. 245

Cain, Åine & Gal, Shayanne. “17 Things that Make this the Perfect Résumé.” Business Insider Inc. 5 Aug. 2018. Web


This Heady Exercise Takes The Big Leap


There’s no time like the present and anymore it feels like no time to lose. I’ve had this story on the backburner, collecting words for too long, and today is the day to share.

The last couple years, few months, several weeks, a day or two ago; have had me really thinking that sometimes (OK - more than sometimes) we’re going to hell in a handbasket.

I’m freaking out! This keeps happening!



Breathe in deeply.

Exhale fully.

Cutting to the chase, I will stop rambling on for now and share this nugget of helpfulness. It’s from a great little personal development book, The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks and it’s a gem.

I’m just gonna give it to you and continue my blabbering after so you can jump in and give it a try. Give it a few tries really. You may be pleasantly surprised combined with mildly frustrated (because it works so well you might be mad you haven’t learned of it before now) with the results. Keep reading for more on that! If it comes to mind, please let me know how it worked for you. Either in the comments or direct message.

Here it is direct from Gay Hendricks via The Big Leap: Conquer Your Fear and Take Life to the Next Level*:

  1. I notice myself worrying about something.

  2. I let go of the worry-thoughts, shifting my focus away from them.

  3. I wonder: what positive new thing is trying to come into being?

  4. I usually get a body feeling (not a thought or idea) of where that positive new thing is trying to come through.

  5. I open my focus to feel that body feeling deeply.

  6. I let myself feel it deeply for as long as I possibly can.

  7. Later, I often get an idea of the positive thing that was trying to come through.

I started by following these instructions and then writing them down because I can’t remember anything without writing it down a few times. Taking the steps with me, pulling out my little piece of paper with directions, following them when I would forget a step.

The cool thing was, trying to remember if I was doing the exercise right helped me get past whatever worry thought I might be having at the time.

Now is probably a good time to come clean here. I started by using this exercise for worry thoughts but once I tried it for my anger and frustration was when the real magic happened for me. And by magic, I mean the great relief and great horror that I have more control over my thoughts and feelings than I had ever thought before. Or maybe just believed.

The worry or anger thoughts love the strong hold they have over our perfectly good day, or our perfectly good night’s sleep. The only good place for a legit worry is; did I leave the stove on? If that’s the case, get your butt up and go check that one out because that is the definition of true worry.

I saw the downward spiral reflected in my emotional, visceral feelings in response to whatever might be happening around me. Whether it be the bulldozer working on the property next door wile I'm on a coaching call or trying to paint, an interaction with someone (I was living on the couch in a two bedroom apartment with my mom and my ex) so it was pretty much always a someone issue, social media, or a news blip. Unfortunately these triggers can go on forever and be devastating. No matter how heartbreaking or anger inducing the situation is, it seems like just a  blip before the next bombshell drops. 

The external onslaught seems just a reflection of the internal birage of worrisome scenarios that would play out on repeat in my head.

The good news!

Immediate action can be taken against harmful thought patterns.

Again, for me it’s usually something that’s making me raging mad (mostly at myself) and I’m getting angry and replaying the event that got me all worked up over and over in my head repeatedly.

Gay Hendricks an example of his walk through of this exercise as well that is way more chill and quite sweet in The Big Leap. I think I drink more black coffee than he does. This is my take on the exercise to give some insight into my interpretation.

  1. I notice a runaway worry or situation that made me angry playing on repeat. Stop! I say it outloud if I have to and exhale audibly letting the thought ride out with it.

  2. I let go of the thought and take a deep breath in through my nose. Only thinking of my inhale. Then I let my breath go fully exhaling through my nose or mouth.

  3. Then I either ask myself out loud or quietly to myself that Gay Hendricks directs: "what positive new thing is trying to come into existence?"  This is the shifting point. I have to make myself available and open to new possibilities.

  4. I take another deep breath in, feeling where this positive new thing is trying to come through. My thoughts are completely on my body and the question I am asking as I breath in deeply and exhale fully. When I first tried this exercise I often was feeling sensation in my throat because the thing I was so angry about was stifling my voice. My task was to speak my truth and compassionately ask for the things I needed instead of deflecting anger to an unrelated issue. 

  5. I breathe deeply into the part of my body where I am feeling sensation. For me, when I was angry, I’d be off on a walk. When I worry, I have often been in bed or sitting outside with a glass of wine thinking I should be enjoying rest and relaxation but there is some disconcerting scenario repeating that I can’t let go of. It’s a game of stopping the downward spiral and lifting myself up instead of emotionally pummeling myself.

  6. I bask in the feeling of breathing in deeply into the body sensation I’m feeling. Opening up the sensation to engulf my whole body with each deep breath in and full breath out. I try to do this for as long as I can ride the pleasant feeling of my breath, combined with my body sensation. I'm now as much a junky for feeling good as I used to be for feeling bad.

  7. Now this is where the magic often happens. Some new thought or idea pops in my head. It may not be in the least related. Like, I want to make chicken soup, go to a movie, or unleash some creativity. I love being outside, walking in nature and by concentrating on my breath and the body sensations that accompany it, make my outdoor time so much better. One thought that has happened during this past week is that I want to take positive action to support families that get separated at our borders so I donated to one of the many supporting groups and posted that on my Facebook wall instead of a rant. I admit I had done a little ranting too. I also thought to make strawberry shortcake for breakfast the next day and smiled at how tasty delicious it was going to be (with bacon).

  8. Discovering how to create positive new thoughts and alternative actions to stewing in worry helped me see how uplifting thoughts can be just as recurring as anger, stress and worry had been for me. The positive thought only needs a little wiggle room to ignite within us. It’s really only a few clearing breaths away.

  9. I will add, that when I first started this I would have to do it again, and again, and again. Mainly because I had to address the things that were, as I like to say, driving me batshit crazy. Through practicing this exercise, I found really rewarding and creative solutions to help break my negative thought patterns. Like everything worth doing, it takes practice.

What my practice is now: Letting go of harmful thoughts taking over my brain, mood, general well being in order to let a new positive thing come forth into being. That’s the important part. I can control the thoughts that I energize in existence.

The frustratingly aggravating thought that came up for me and I address using the same exercise is; why didn’t I learn this exercise sooner?!? I wish I would have known I could change my thought pattern before. What the hell? Giving myself a good dose of my now pretty outdated negative self talk.

This is the magic of having some solid tools to navigate our amazing brains. I use the exercise on those thoughts too! I do thank my very unique and individual brain for doing great work at worry and anger. It did so well for so long! Then I breathe in deeply, exhale fully and let it go so positive new thoughts, followed by actions can emerge.

One of my new takes on going to hell in a handbasket is the joy in weaving a basket of my choosing.

Give it a try on your next worry thought!

Best of luck! Hope it works for you! Great thanks to Gay Hendricks and his most awesome personal growth book The Big Leap:Conquer Your Fear and Take Life to the Next Level.

Please leave a message in the comments if you try this exercise or have tried this exercise and how it works for you. Same goes if you have any questions, please feel free to ask, either in the comments or in a direct message


*Credit, reference, and recommendation for this exercise goes to Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Fear and Take Life to the Next Level, New York, Harper Collins, 2009, Print.


Life Is About Stepping Out

Calligraphy inspired by Dorothy Steel, the 92 year old merchant tribal leader in Black Panther.

Calligraphy inspired by Dorothy Steel, the 92 year old merchant tribal leader in Black Panther.

92 year old Dorothy Steel - merchant tribe elder in Black Panther decided to try acting at 88!!!

If we don’t step out, we - for certain - will not ever know if what we want will ever be energized into existence.

This is my continued practice now. If there is an idea, followed by a desire, I know to take one step towards making my imagination, my reality. 

What I have dubbed my creativity unleashed. 

What Inspires me about what Dorothy Steel has done, is that she wanted to try acting and she did. To the extent that when she was offered to audition for Black Panther, she almost turned it down, until her grandson reminded her to step out on faith.

I’m glad she did because knowing others have stepped out and succeeded on a dream remind me to continue taking steps too. 

“Keep your mind open and keep faith in yourself that you can do this thing. All you have to do is step out there.” Thanks Dorothy! Your actions are youthfully exuberant and optimism I am grateful to gain!

And maybe most important is enlisting, involving, and connecting with others our desires so they can remind us, lovingly, when we faultier along the way.

For me - it’s painting again so back to the studio now for - I think greens and golds on this rainy Portland day. 

Is there an inspired step you want to take? Share below and see what happens next. You'll at the least get a coaching cheer from me! 

If Dorothy hadn’t taken the first step, she wouldn’t have been a delightful addition to one of the biggest movie ever!! 

This inspiration came from The Washington Post article by Kelyn Soong:

As The Crow Flies: If Stopping Meant Falling, What Would You Do Different?

Quick sketch of the crow that inspired me to change course.

Quick sketch of the crow that inspired me to change course.

Confirming with the dictionary that ‘as the crow flies’ is indeed as simple as a straight line.

My morning ritual all a flutter!  


Every morning I go outside for a few minutes with my coffee to get a feel for the day, clear the fog of sleep from my eyes, and take a birds eye view of my daily planner, so-to-speak.

This morning is cool and quiet under low clouds and fog until the crows descend.

The perfect start to match my own insecurities about what actions to take at the midway point of a few projects. As a recovering perfectionist, a few is better than too many and way better than crashing to none at all!

That point in the best laid plans where actions have been taken in a new way, leading to substantial progress, which before would be my stopping point for a new project. Not finishing, not following through on the best next steps. Instead opting for more projects, more distraction, in a grand crescendo of overwhelm and collapse.

As I sit, looking up at the sky, kinda mesmerized by the murder of crows, one flies from the group, heading straight towards me overhead - as many things seem to me sometimes - way overhead, out of reach. Prompting me to ask out loud, “what are you doing?”


What Are You Doing?


Crow responds by stopping mid-air, answering my question with what looks and feels like chaos and confusion. A dark spark of energy suspended long enough to give pause, a catching of breath in an orchestrated flailing about for just a moment of time. Long enough that I fear she might fall, only to surprise and delight me by confidently righting herself, turning on her own axis in the sky with complete conviction, taking off in a “straight line” in the opposite and new direction away from me and towards the mountains.


The question now comes back to me, “What are you doing?”


Taking this piece of information with my morning ritual as I think-out my day inspires a shift of plans. An opening to an idea to follow through on. What if I try taking on my work and my life as if I will fall from the sky if I stop midway through?


Making art.

Making a life of creativity unleashed.

Radical freedom energized into existence.

Health and wellness in action.

I gotta have my beauty, love, and justice. Better yet, I vow to fight for beauty, love, and justice.

Helping others do the same and more!


This feels good and terrifying!


I am not alone. I am in perfect company.

This is action. Staying tuned.

A challenge to stay tuned.


If you are reading this, you can feel confident one other person is moving through challenges that have been around forever. Now is different. Now is in a new way. Aligned with small successes along the way, staying the course as the crow flies, and proceeding as if success is inevitable.

Trying things this week as the crow flies, even if that means flailing about for a moment to re-center and take-off again, with a breath of fresh air, directly towards the goal of good enough, having let perfection fall away.

What do you want to create a direct path towards this week?

For me:

I’ve got paintings to complete which means working on them to my magic number 13 and posting my progress - with some pre-sale options through my website. Scary!

I’ve got a few openings coming up for coaching clients that want to unleash their creativity and take flight in overcoming the barriers and blocks that can stop us mid-flight. Stay tuned!

Get 2 hikes planned for wildflowers and mushrooms with mom and maybe 2 hikes complete.

Cheers to taking action as the crow flies!


If you try it, let me know what you take on, what you accomplish, and inspirations while stepping out for a little fresh air.

The GSD Of Freedom: Normal Service Will Return Soon


So this is what happens when you start to get involved, little by little. Emails, calls, donations, and marches this past year and today I learned I can write Senator McConnell. But I can’t. So here I am writing the world.


Sorry I can’t get ahold of you Mitch McConnell. Either happy because so many people are telling you the current tax bill is abhorrent or furious that you have conveniently shut down your website correspondence because you don’t want to know how much many of us feel this tax bill favors a few and leaves many with less.

As I start to express myself more and take action on what has now become for me the ultimate inspiration; Donald Trump becoming the 45th president of the United States instead of Hillary Clinton. My #woke moment.

Bring it on, any and all heat for not getting more involved sooner in my life. I am here now. Loud and proud to be a voice for our democracy. For the freedoms I have been privileged to enjoy, bask in, living carefree while the world crumbles around me.

Now raising my loud as hell voice in the fight for equality for ALL Americans and the planet we call home. We must do that together and I am here to make known that I am here, I am ready, I am able to fight for the causes that will uplift and carry us all to our full potential. I will not give up, give in, or walk away quietly from our people and our planet.

That I am sorry, at times overcome with guilt. I am sorry that I’ve sat on the sidelines of this country, enjoying my privilege, oblivious to the degradation purpetrated by men i thought would be gone by now. Replaced by younger more altruistic people. Alas, no. A country I call home and have lived from coast to coast to coast of seems in peril to me, with nowhere to run and hide.

The call to action has come and I am here to fight for ALL our rights.

A fight is so aggressive. That feels like an attack and when so many of us have been under attack our whole lives it may feel caustic, dangerous, aggressive, and unhinged. I feel like I’ve got this because that is an overall accurate description of me. With a goodly dose of compassion, and what I have been given from Hillary Clinton, radical empathy.

I move slowly, like the first stuffed animal I ever had, a three toed sloth. There are a million other things to do instead of public service so I am trying, learning, listening, floundering, and plodding along as best I can.

This is my latest attempt failed. I never thought it appropriate or even necessary to contact my own senators and definitely didn’t think I could contact other… until I did. Turns out Senator McConnell’s email is on a 45 day backlog and when I hit send with my letter, it did not go through. Website maintenance. Assuring me normal service will return soon…

Here is what I tried to write to Senator McConnell. I now hope he may see it before 45 days by posting it here in my blog, my social media pages, and my website.

Hello Senator McConnell,

I am writing in avid opposition of this tax bill. Everything I take away from it informs me that I will lose in the bill. This means that more Americans will be hurt by this tax bill than helped. The people this tax plan helps are a tiny minority that need no assistance from our government. I cannot condone a bill that taxes school supplies, allows businesses to write off office supplies, penalizes people seeking further education through graduate school, removes the healthcare mandate, kills the estate tax, and raises the deficit. THIS IS NOT SMALL GOVERNMENT. A government in debt is not small. It is weak.

Do The Right Thing,

Sam Shearer


Travel Tips: Launching A Most Fantastic Journey In 3 Easy Steps

Toasting to the beginning of our most fantastic journey in New Orleans, LA. Photo by J.A. Field

Toasting to the beginning of our most fantastic journey in New Orleans, LA. Photo by J.A. Field

What now?

This was the recurring thought before I decided to go home. Now that our home has been sold, I ask again in a broader sense. Unencumbered by home and free to roam.

What now?

Unencumbered and free to roam.

This is when the doubt attempts to take hold. Catching my breath. Then sighing in relief.

Thank you doubt. Thank you for working so hard to protect me. Desperate to keep me safe.

Now be gone! For a fantastic journey is about to launch! Excitement for what’s ahead riding a deep breath in. Drowning out the fear that I breathe out and away from me. Leaving the consistency of these past 20+ years behind and taking our 1st steps toward what we will discover on the road and beyond.


Fight the fear with curiosity, compassion, and love. Fight the doubt that creeps in along the way. Telling me not to go forth. Not to move forward. To stay here, where it’s safe. But there is no here now. The here, the home just sold. I did my work. I project managed the shit out of the last couple years. My mom worked her ass off for over 30 years to retire in style. Now we are homeless by choice. Vagabonds looking for a new place to settle in and build anew or just keep traveling forever.

The idea to retire, sell the house, and move away from Mississippi has come to pass. A whole new set of possibilities and doubts charge forth from our imagination. Both attempting with fierce determination to set in our minds that we can do anything and nothing all at once. There is something poetically and beautifully psychotic at play. This feels like madness that I’m reeling in the unknown, the adventure, the inconsistency of life on the road to…

We got this! We are a stronger We now. A mother and daughter together as ready as ready can be for this unknown because we conceptualized it. Created it. Mulled it over. Debated it a time or two. Planned for it. Emblazoned along the way in our choices and the freedom to make them. We can do what We want. Two women together in a most fantastic journey! Two wild and free feminists on the road to an unknown destination.

The fear creeps in all around me. Maybe because it’s the witching hour that doubt and fear creep closer. Maybe it’s because I feel a charge. And I heard somewhere that fear is just excitement on hold. The charge being to do something magical together in the search for a new home, a new place to be. To safely caravan across the country, enjoying the many sites along the way and overcoming the obstacles toward an unknown destination. Nothing scary about that. Not at all(insert sarcastic inflection or uncomfortable giggle).

This is the time to start. This is the time to share. This is the time to ask for insight and support along the way. If I could go back three years and start, I wouldn’t. It was too dark. Literally. The lights had gone out in my mom’s house when I first arrived. The septic tank had imploded. I walked into a literal shitstorm. Thankful to be home and safe from the world I felt at the time had shit on me. The ultimate pity party in poor lighting. Deep in it and wanting desperately to climb out, clean off, and let the light shine in. Remodel and revitalize my life, just like our home. Make it a beautiful and a right place to be for us and then for the family that bought it.

Now, looking back, I can see the things we did really well, the things we learned, and the things we want to do different. Best of all I use We — to work together with this amazing woman. My mom is all of the things and at the end of the day, family that I cherish.

The charge electric.

Charging my life with a magical task.

Giving me a sense of my truth gives me the energy to step fully and unapologetically into myself now. This is who I am. This is how I’m going to live. And this is how I’m doing it.

There have been a lot of times I’ve consulted those around me and the seemingly all knowing internet for guidance. Now my hope is to document this fantastic journey in a way that helps charge and re-energize us as we move through it. Using our mad skills. Learning along the way. Posterity and all that hullabaloo. And maybe, if we’re lucky, inspiring a charge for others to do the same in their life. That our triumphs and fumbles along our way will either prove that this was a bat-shit crazy idea or pure genius. Really wanting a balance of something in-between.

To walk through the fears and stay the course. That by anchoring, rooting deeply in my truth and showing myself compassion, love, and curiosity for life I am charged and ready to go. From the best, most awesome of feelings and experiences, to the most difficult and painful. I show myself I can do this and I show the world it is possible.

I am afraid. The doubt is here. I am thankful for it. It shows me that I am sane. I want to be safe and the unknown is scary. But I have a charge and my charge energizes my mission.

To quote mom today as we did a 2 mile walk, “I’m putting one foot in front of the other until I get where I want to go”.

This is how to start and it is only the beginning:

1 — Have an idea that won’t let up. It keeps whispering to you. Do it. Do it. Do it. Listen.

2 — Doubt WILL creep in to whisper back. It’s not safe. You will fail. You could die. Don’t do it. Don’t do it. Don’t do it! Listen to the doubt with curiosity and grace. How fiercely we desire gets so easily muddled with how fiercely we desire to protect ourselves from perceived danger. Safety first. Thank your protective self and take one step — the first step toward your desire, goal, dream. What can you do now to start? If you can’t do that thing, make a plan to do it as soon as possible.

3 — Charge it. Plug into it — anchoring and rooting it to take shape. The importance of this step is a start point reminder that can always be easily connected with. A way to track toward your success. A document. A calendar. A coach to work with that will remember with you, hold you accountable, staying the course along the way. A friend or loved one to enlist for encouragement and support. A list of actions to check through as energy is gained along the way, and something to re-charge with when the going gets tough and energy runs low(it always does, at least for me).

Energize your mission everyday along the way on a most fantastic journey from do it, to doing it, to did it!


Stay tuned.

Stay True.


5 Things I Learned Packing A Big Life In A Little Box

Photo Credit Samantha Shearer - Final POD Loading & Security

Photo Credit Samantha Shearer - Final POD Loading & Security

The Pod Is Packed!

The giddiness of my smile, combined with the mess of hair and no make-up! Sharing that and more with the world is yet another step in my Tao of Transformation. My way to unapologetically live my life. Sharing here, with others, that it’s possible and can be done or as a cautionary tale to stay safe and secure wherever that may be.

This is what my life on the go is gonna look like.

Oh shit! What have I done?!?!

This is another reason to share. So I have ALL the interwebs, my friends, loved ones, and followers know exactly what I’ve done and that I’m not doing it alone.

Is it okay to blame mom? I only do it in juxtaposition to egging her on because I’m her coach in this. The one charged with making this fun and easy. Organized and well planned is my new form of perfection. I could call this whole thing: notes from a recovering perfectionist.

Charged and ready to go.


Oh shit! What have I done?!?!

We officially leave Vicksburg Mississippi tomorrow. I’m practicing life on the road at a bookstore with wifi to write this while mom is picking out a few books to read along the way.

Maybe in honor of Halloween this is a warning to beware of what you wish for, dream about, secretly hope will happen, plan for, only to have the dream come true. Leaving the life we have comfortably known for 20+ years to explore anew.

This is what I’ve learned so far or rather what I can express at the moment.

The 5 tips to packing a big life in a little box:

1 — Don’t block the storage unit door. It reminds me of my safety 1st motto — don’t block the exits. There is an immediate and visceral response to not being able to get the door open again on your storage container once you’ve shut it. This motto compliments; carry a big stick to help push shit back so you can triumphantly get storage doors open again if precious possessions have jostled about blocking the door. How dare they!

2 — Rope, bungies, straps — use all of them. Wrap all of it up and tie it back. Tie it down. Secure it tightly in place like you’re a professional dominatrix over your possessions. Telling them the whole time not to move an inch while you’re apart.

3 — Start clearing clutter now. If you don’t think you want it anymore, get rid of it now. This, I cannot stress enough and maybe that’s because I love all my things! It seems so much easier to keep them around me, adding to the collections until I can no longer be found under my mountain of precious possessions. Now I want only around me what I will keep forever or discard at the end of the day.

4 — Do it in stages. This is based on two of my life and coaching principles: make life fun and easy. This is impossible if you try to pack a big life in a little box in one day. It took me almost three years. Three years!! There is nothing quite like an afternoon with a platter of nosh, a bottle of bubbly, and a closet to clear of crap.

5 — Party along the way! Have people over that you will miss or maybe more important that will miss you. I never realized how many people loved and cherished having mom in their life until she said she was leaving. It was great to have brunches, and dinners, and get togethers along the way. This is also a great way to get rid of stuff. I can’t believe how many people helped us by giving them things they liked or wanted from our possessions. My favorite was some old Hellraiser comics that I gave to a friend amongst a couple boxes of albums that I’m still not totally sure he wanted but the comics he was overjoyed about.

It’s all packed up now and we are ready to go. If we’re not ready, too late now, we gotta be in Lafayette, Louisiana by 6pm tomorrow so we’re charged, revved, and raring to start this most fantastic journey. Excited to share with each other and you.

Stay posted for our final farewell shots of Mississippi, I knowI am. Then it’s all the wonders of the road that wait ahead. If you’re reading this from my website, thanks for visiting! If you’re reading from elsewhere and want 1st dibs on our latest and greatest antics, visit me at and sign-up for the newsletter. If we’re meeting on Medium, it’s great to be here and thanks for reading.


Photo credit Samantha Shearer - OMG! I wrote that I wasn't wearing make-up and my hair is a mess but a zit too?!? Of course! Still smiling though! 

Photo credit Samantha Shearer - OMG! I wrote that I wasn't wearing make-up and my hair is a mess but a zit too?!? Of course! Still smiling though! 

More of What You Want, Less of What You Don't

Sounds so easy!!! I don’t want to be stressed, tired, bored, smoking, drinking, angry and so on.

This mental chatter is in itself a drain. A total brain drain and takes up too much time. Time we know we want to be spending do something else, something more, something better.

I know it seems too simple, I know!!! And at the same time it’s a profound way I started shaping my day to day life more around the things I most wanted to do, how I desperately wanted to be living on the daily, and I can’t be more plain than to tell you I just wasn’t doing it.

After spending so much time saying to myself: I don’t want to eat like crap, I don’t want to feel like crap, I don’t want all these distractions, I don’t want to smoke, I don’t want to drink so much, I don’t want to smoke weed and binge watch old TV shows because I can’t think of anything else other than what I don’t want to do anymore!

Creating my daily life around what I needed to do, to do the things I most wanted to do became my catalyst for change.

As I head toward my 45th birthday this weekend, I can appreciate the power of practicing this simple technique everyday for a couple years now. It took me a bit to get here and hopefully by sharing my experience it can help energize yours towards what YOU most want to be doing a little faster and easier - I’m sharing a super shortcut here!

So this is what I do; when I think of something I don’t want to be doing or feel guilty about the thing I am doing that I don’t think I should be doing, I stop and take a moment to flip that bitch around on itself!

First, if I don’t like what I’m doing what is the first thing that comes to mind that I’d like or love to be doing instead? Right now. Then I think of that thing in a mantra(a short phrase or word that encompasses the positive thought) Dance, dance, dance for instance.

If I can do that now, I do it. If I can’t, I take a few moments to think about when I can do it and how I want to do it. Do I want to go to a dance class, a dance club, or put on some music right now and dance around my living room like Tom Cruise in Risky Business?

This helped me so much when I quit smoking. When I decided I wanted to quit, I spent so much time fixated on not wanting to smoke, which just made me want to smoke more. When I switched my thought pattern to what else would I like to be doing, it occured to me I wanted to breathe more deeply and freely. Then I thought of activities I loved doing or wanted to try that would support this thought more. I came up with hiking, yoga, and meditation and then looked at a calendar and asked myself when I wanted to do these things. Picking a day hike for the weekend, time to set aside for morning meditation, and since I had a yoga schedule from the neighborhood on the fridge, a couple yoga classes to go to starting the next week.

The simplicity is exquisite. If you are thinking about something, anything that you don’t want, take a moment to think about what it is you would like to be doing instead. Breathe into that experience, go to a calendar and see when you can start doing it if you can’t do it right now. Try making it a regular part of your life for 90 days - this gives enough time to really find the activities you love and adjust if it’s not the right fit. As well as a little room to slack and come back. See if it is really something you want to do and you’re doing it more, moving away from the thing you no longer enjoy doing. Give yourself time to really have the time of your life!

  1. Thing of something you want to be doing.
  2. Do it! Do it now. Plan to do it. Schedule it in a calendar with a reminder. Do it!
  3. Keep doing it until you suddenly realize you're doing something you really enjoy and haven't thought about that old worn out thing you were so over!

What’s one thing you’d like to be doing? When do you want to start doing it? Please share in the comments to inspire others.

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Until next time, Cheers!


Getting my attention as I sat creating copy for my website, I was bonked on the head by a Carolina Wren that's been nesting on my deck. When I shook my head, with a surprised, “what the..” and looked up. I saw the culprit and then looked back over my shoulder where they had built their nest near by, just weeks ago. While I sat much of the time near by, loving their vibrant personality as I worked. Such a bold, inquisitive, and noisy bird. No wonder we get along.

Seeing the nest all a flutter I exclaimed, "it’s fledgling time!!!" I’ve never been invited to a party like this one and many thanks for the invite!

A lesson in fearless exploration and wild abandon right in front of me. Chicks going every which way! Climbing up the side of the house, falling into the baskets below their nest, and then one by one, wildly taking off in every direction even though their parent was calling them anxiously to come out into the world. First launching to the deck railings, two holding their landing and one completely over shooting past the deck, landing in the garden, then frantically flapping back up. They would double back toward the nest and the adult would coax them back out again. Real coaching in action!

One of the parents didn’t get the memo that the fledging was today and came flying up with food, and seemed as surprised as I was with the event. Then they both got in on the effort to head out into the wild world and no longer hunker down in the nest. One by one they took off, not a graceful landing among them into the garden, the bird bath, a bird feeder, and then in amongst the flowers of the garden. It wasn’t 15-20 minutes later and I could no longer tell where the wrens were, other than the many chips, whistles, and rustling amongst the flowers.

Like the wrens, it is time to climb out of my wooded, cozy nest I’ve created and launch. The website I’m writing copy for is for my coaching business, focused on personal development, combined with my blog to express lessons I’ve learned, some I’m still learning, and creativity I unleash, to share and connect with others driven to do the same. This is my invite to the party that is possibility!

Join in the journey through signing up for my newsletter to get weekly insights in my 1% Blog. A conversation to launch your own flight into action is right here, and many thanks to my coaches mentors, friends, and teachers that continue to inspire me to do this - 1% at a time.


Sam Lee Shearer